Alright... This is the question i found today. Before this becomes a good guy vs bad guy argument, let me clarify the parameters of the answer. We are all different with different prerequesites and capacities. For the record let me say i know people who are polygamous and they are sometimes some of the best and most loving people i know. Personally, i am disgustingly monogamous and it is not really a skill i harness but more a comfortable and natural state of being. At this juncture i'm more concerned with the one and the interaction of relationary preference- monogamy and polygamy, and with this idea of one love for life.
I have had the privilege of seeing both sides of the argument. However, the conversation becomes awkward when i try and defend my polygamy-minded brothers. As a matter of fact, i'm going to do away with that word polygamy and call them free.
Free lovers seem to have an infinite capacity to Love more people than is normal for most. And what is of great significance is that this does not alter their Love for one person when all is said and done. In some rare cases it makes them better Lovers. I must say i am in no way defending people who practice Free Love at the cost of someone elses feelings. That i cannot condone. What my focus is today is that it is what it is and we can spend time trying to change people to see things with monogamous goggles, or we could try to understand how to better have a relationship that accepts a person for who they are and can't help being.
But before i trap myself and pick a side, i will ask a question. Maybe a question you haven't asked yourself. Where we born to only Love one person and that's it? Where we born to Love all? These to questions define what is the limiting factor in understanding infidelity and soul mates. I throw it out. Ask me sometime... Truth.
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